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Grow Your Gifts Meditation – Tranquility with the Irish Sea

I relax into a sea of tranquility.  All is well in my world.

I relax into a sea of tranquility. All is well in my world.

I just got back from a two-week trip to Northern Ireland with my family. My parents took the whole clan to celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary (congrats Mom and Dad!). This was the view from the place we stayed on the Irish Sea in Carnlough. Ireland was very lovely, but this was one of my favorite spots because it was so peaceful. You can use the guidance below to connect to its energy through meditation. 

How to Work with the Image to Support the Process
• Take a moment to center yourself. Close your eyes and breathe in and out slowly three times. Let your exhale be longer than your inhale.

• Open your eyes and focus on the image. Ask your Spiritual Support Team to help you come into harmonic resonance with the image and to receive the amount of energy from the essence of the place for your highest and best good.

• Use your imagination to put yourself in the photo. Use all your senses to interact with what is shown. What do you feel, see, hear, smell, taste and touch as you connect?

• Ask for Divine guidance on how you can incorporate the gifts from this essence into your own life and situation. Allow yourself to feel the love and support flowing to you and through you from the Earth and the Divine.

• Repeat the affirmation (see caption) as you breathe in and out slowly.

• Be open to any additional thoughts, sounds, smells, or images that come to you as you are working with the photo. Consider these as messages to support you on your path. Ask what these impressions mean to you. What do they make you think or feel?

• Continue to recall the image throughout the day when you wish to bring in the energy it provides.

• Express your gratitude for the gifts given to you through the experience.

Love to all!


New! Earth Wisdom Empowerment Circle – 5/22

Jaap Van Etten, Dee Curci and Laurie Price at the kidney meridian at the Blessed Foundation.

Jaap Van Etten, Dee Curci and Laurie Price at the kidney meridian at the Blessed Foundation.

For Summer 2014, we will be taking the empowerment circles out to Mother Earth!  Each month, those who sign up will meet out at the beautiful Blessed Foundation in Medina, Ohio for an in-person gathering. During this experience, you will be invited to connect with the Earth energies (we will be sitting in a circle on one chakra vortex or meridian vortex for each meeting) to restore balance to your system and experience intuitive insights and guidance.  As we connect with Mother Earth with love, we will be raising our vibration and lifting the vibration of the planet!  Different tools and techniques as well as intuitive guidance will be shared as part of the experience.  If the weather is inclement, we will move inside to the retreat house and connect to the Earth energies from there.  Meeting Time:  6 – 7 PM.  Location:  The Blessed Foundation (Medina, OH).  Cost:  $15 per Circle

Sign up for Thursday 5/22 Earth Wisdom Empowerment Circle:  For this circle, we will focus on connecting with the kidney meridian to release fear and experience courage to create what we would love to experience in our lives. Register by  5/21/2014.  Pre-registration is required.  Visit this link to register: Empowerment Circle Readings

Save the Dates!  

The Earth Wisdom Circles will meet on the following Thursdays:  5/22, 6/12, 7/24, 8/14 – From 6 – 7 PM

Participants are welcome to come to any or all!

Have a wonderful day! 


April Inspiration!

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April 2014

Spring is here!  I have to confess that this is my favorite season.  I even love the mud and the rain!  It is just so exciting to feel the Earth coming to life.  I hope you have time to get out and enjoy the wonderful scents and sounds of nature this spring.  I injured my back last week and was in quite a bit of discomfort still this week. Yesterday, I was able to go outside and stretch out on the Earth.  I spent several hours out there and my back felt so much better!  Truly the Earth provides all we need.  I’m so thankful that it warmed up enough for me to spend some time reconnecting!

Events This Month

Wednesday 4/16/2014 (Registration deadline):  April Empowerment Circle Reading– Energy Medicine for Perfect Health:  I’ve been reading the book, Energy Medicine by Donna Eden and I am so excited about the simple, yet powerful techniques it shares for bringing health and well-being to one’s system.  For April, the empowerment circle will focus on guidance to provide you with an energy balancing technique (either one from the book or one of mine) to restore your system to optimal functioning.  For this Circle, you are welcome to ask about a specific health issue or I’ll see what comes through for you at the time of the reading.  All the techniques will be something all participants can use to balance their own system.  The Empowerment Circle recording includes: Brief Prayer and Group Intuitive Message, Individual Intuitive Messages and Interpretation, and an Intention setting meditation to manifest what you wish to experience.  All readings are done anonymously (you will be told the number of your reading) and each message will have gifts for all listening.  An oracle card will also be shared at the end of the call for the group.  Cost is $15. You can learn more and register at this link:  Empowerment Circles

4/13/2014 (7-8PM EST) – April Empowerment Group Call – Manifesting Perfect Health:  Donna Eden shares in her book, Energy Medicine, the following, “We are increasingly required, with our lifestyles so divorced from nature, to live in conscious partnership with our body’s energy systems if we are to live fully and healthfully.”  I agree!  For this call, we’ll be connecting with our Divine support team of Angels and Guides and asking for a guided meditation to help us open the gateway between our consciousness and our physical system.  The intent will be to empower us to feel our own energy make- up so that we can consciously infuse our system with love and good health.  The first half of the call will be recorded during the guided meditation. The second half, I’ll be sharing Angel Oracle card readings for those interested (as many as time allows) and participants will have a chance to share about their experience during the guided meditation.  Cost: $15; Nancy’s Community Members are free.  Register here:   Empowerment Call

4/26/2014 (12 – 4:30) Be Empowered!  Spring Retreat in Tallmadge, Ohio:  As I’ve been sharing, I’ve been learning and practicing a new technique for manifesting/creating from love.  This process works with the concepts of Love (inner child), Wisdom (Feminine energy) and Power (Masculine Energy).  For this event, you’ll be exploring this technique by focusing on an attribute you would love to manifest in yourself this spring.  Do you want to be more prosperous, peaceful, fulfilled, healthy or creative?  Maybe you want to be more joyful, fun, or playful?  You will work in a small group and together you will work through the process to help this attribute (and those your group mates choose) to blossom in you this spring!  The groups will be traveling through three sacred circles and working with three spiritual teachers (one of course is me!) who will be sharing the tools of vibrational sound (crystal bowls), energy balancing, and intuitive guidance to empower you!  Cost:  $75; $65 if you register with a friend.  Register by April 18th.  Full details including teacher bios, the retreat itinerary, and registration links are available here:   Spring Retreat

Featured Spiritual Tools

As I mentioned with this month’s events, I’m really enjoying Energy Medicine by Donna Eden!  I have been learning the different energy balancing techniques and really finding them so helpful.  I have included a link to a You Tube video by Donna Eden sharing the five-minute daily routine she recommends (thanks Margaret for passing this on to me!).  You can find the video here:  Daily Energy Routine

Here is the book and a link to learn more on Amazon:

Energy Medicine

 Energy Medicine by Donna Eden

ARchangel Michael

Archangel Michael Oracle Cards by Doreen Virtue Ph.D.

I asked for guidance for this month and here is the card that fell out:

Believe and Trust“To resolve this situation, you must believe that everything is healed and whole right now.  As your faith grows stronger, the doorway to Divine solutions will open.  Your trust enables your mind and body to relax, which increases your creative energy and strength-two qualities that will prove especially helpful to you.  Prayer:  Before going to sleep tonight, say:  “Archangel Michael, please enter my dreams and replace fear with faith and trust.  Let me be filled with strength, courage, and confidence.” 

Weekly Reading Shared from the Membership Community Archives

Each week, I ask for guidance for my community members to empower and inspire us for the week ahead.  This is the one for the first week of April.  I hope you find it helpful too!

Weekly Wisdom Reading March 31 to April 6

Work with Nancy

New Client Special – $25/25 Minutes

April Special Offer for Community Members – $10 off a 30 Minute Emotion Code Empowerment Reading.  Email me to set up a time!

Creating Community

Free Ways to Keep Connected…

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Join my membership community for ongoing empowerment:  I created my membership community to provide a comfortable and affordable way to offer ongoing support for my coaching clients (who I call my “soul friends” – see my book Soul Friends Guide to Surviving the Pit: A Step-by- Step Handbook for Surviving and Thriving through Tough Life Changes).  Membership is $5/month and this month’s membership special offer is $10 off a 30 minute emotion code empowerment reading.  Membership provides the following benefits:

February community graphic 2014

If you are a current or former client you are invited to become a member.  You can sign up here:  Membership

Have a wonderful month!


Be Empowered – Join me for a Spring Retreat (4/26)!

Sanctuary at the Crossroads Holistic Network invites you to…

Sacred Circles RetreatApril 26th 12:00 – 4:30PM

Conversations & Co Books – Gifts- Accessories

Tallmadge, Ohio

What to Expect…

Discover your spiritual power to create from love!  Your journey will begin with the question, “What quality would I love to see blossom in me this spring?  Would you like to be more joyful, prosperous, successful, or fulfilled?  Or maybe you would like to be more peaceful, intuitive, healthy or inspired?  Together, in small, supportive groups, we will travel through sacred circles of love, wisdom and power to create this intention!

To see full details for the retreat: April Day Retreat Schedule

Meet the Spiritual Teachers

Deb Bradt 2Deb BradtRYT, is a Yoga Teacher, Reiki Master & Intuitive Healer with over 16 years experience in the Healing Arts.  She has made it her mission to inspire others to connect to that deep place within from which true healing & joy can emerge.

Kathleen Calby

Kathleen Calby brings 15 years of concentration with musical tones, her ensemble of gem crystal bowls and Himalayan singing bowls to this healing discovery of sound with you.

Nancy NicholasNancy Nicholas, Nancy Nicholas, Intuitive Life Coach, has 14 years experience as a spiritual teacher, Reiki Master, and intuitive healer.  She uses her intuitive abilities, energy sensitivity, and life coach training to empower you to create a life you love!

Program fee: $75 or $65 each when you register with a friend

To Register:

Use the PayPal button below to register for this event.  You will have the option to use a credit card or checking account if you don’t have a PayPal account.  Registration ends 4/18.  Please note:  By participating in this event, you are agreeing to the terms in this INFORMED CONSENT  document.

Individual Registration:  $75 –  Individual

Registering with a Friend (please include your friend’s name in the comment’s section so we put you in the same group):  $65 – With a Friend

Questions?:  Email or call 330-416-6184


To learn more about the event locationConversations & Company

For a printable PDF flyer of this event: Sacred Circles Spring Retreat Flyer

March 2014 – News, Events, Inspiration!


March 2014

Wow!  We actually made it through February without freezing to death (though it was touch and go for my poor toes off and on).  Check out some inspiration and news to empower you this month as we wrap up winter and move into spring. 

New Rates for Readings

I’ve made some changes in my rate structure as part of my simplifying and streamlining process.  Empowerment reading rates are now $75/hour; $45/half hour for everyone.  My community members will be able to take advantage of exclusive special offers each month instead of having a set discounted rate (March’s Member Special Offer is 20% off a one hour empowerment reading).  Also, for those of you who are new to my services – you can still experience an empowerment reading for a new client special rate of $25/25 minutes.  You can learn more and purchase here:  How to Get Started

Events This Month

 3/9/2014:  Living Fear Free Empowerment Call (7-8PM EST)

As I’ve shared a lot recently, I believe we are in the process of evolving as a species.  To do this, we need to rewire our operating mechanism.  Instead of looking around to see what there is to be afraid of so that we can protect ourselves and survive, I feel we are learning how to connect with our deeper self and discover what we love.  As we connect with love, we raise our vibration and therefore no longer attract things that threaten our survival.  The collective unconscious is filled with programming that says this type of thinking is dangerous, but is it really?  For this call, we’ll be connecting with our Angels and Spirit Guides to get some support in helping to move closer to the goal of living fear free.  I’ll also be sharing some tools and techniques to support you in this process.  For the second half of the call, those present will have a chance to ask questions and I will do oracle card readings for those who request it (as many as time allows).  The first half of the call will be recorded and the link shared after the event.  Non-Members – $15; Members – Free:  Register and Learn More here: Empowerment Calls

3/19/2014 (Registration deadline):  March Empowerment Circle – Manifesting Prosperity

Money is one of the topics that can quickly move us into a fear state.  We look at the potential for “not having enough” and begin to strategize on how to keep ourselves secure.  Does this work though?  In the world we live in now, I am finding this approach to push away the security we seek.  Why?  Because we are trying to create something with a foundation of fear.  For this call, I’ll be asking for guidance from your Angels and Spirit Guides to help you see what is going on in your own relationship with money and financial security.  I’ll share what guidance comes through along with some affirmations and other strategies you can use to move from fear to love in your relationship with money. The Empowerment Circle recording includes: Brief Prayer and Group Intuitive Message, Individual Intuitive Messages and Interpretation, and an Intention setting meditation to manifest what you wish to experience.  All readings are done anonymously (you will be told the number of your reading) and each message will have gifts for all listening.  An oracle card will also be shared at the end of the call for the group.  Cost is $15. You can learn more and register at this link:  Empowerment Circles 

Featured Spiritual Tools

This month, I will be working with a fabulous book recommended to me by one of my community members (thank you Angie!).  I’ve been using the affirmations quite a bit and will be writing more on ways to use them that work for me (and hopefully will for you) throughout March.  I highly recommend it!  You can find it at the link below…

Wisdom of Florence

 The Wisdom of Florence Scovel Shinn

Earth Magic 

Earth Magic Oracle Cards by Steven D. Farmer

I asked for guidance for this month and here is the card that fell out:

Crystals“Focus:  It is time to bring your complete focus to the subject of your inquiry. Eliminate all distractions, and give this your undivided attention.  Whether this is a project, relationship, or simply a relaxing time spent walking in Nature, be fully present to the situation. This sharpening of focus will expand your awareness and allow your inner guidance to penetrate your consciousness, which can then be parlayed into appropriate action.   By being focused with crystal clarity, you are in the flow of your life force and, in fact, have become one with it.  It is not a hyper vigilant or tension-filled state, but one of relaxed attention.  Keep your eyes, ears and heart focused on that which you need to pay attention to, and miracles can be created.  To paraphrase a fictional elder, “Use the Force,” and use it in life-enhancing ways.”

Audio Resource Shared from the Membership Community Archives

I feel we are all working with redefining power/masculine energy in ourselves.   This six minute recording I created for my community members offers a meditation to help you integrate balanced masculine energy into your system.

Integrating Power/Masculine Essence

Creating Community

Free Ways to Keep Connected

Subscribe to my blog:  Receive updates by email – Guided meditations, upcoming events and articles to empower you to nurture yourself, grow your gifts, and live your life purpose.  Enter your email in the “Follow This Blog” option on the upper right side of the page (you will have an option to receive updates daily or weekly).  Subscribe:

Subscribe to my holistic network blog – Sanctuary at the Crossroads:  Keep informed about upcoming holistic events, services and products offered in Northeast Ohio by my favorite holistic providers!  Enter your email address in the  “Follow This Blog” option on the upper right side of the website page (you will have an option to receive updates daily or weekly) at the link below.  Through 3/20/2014 new email subscribers will receive an Experience Sanctuary Discount Pass which offers $5 off your next session with all of the Sanctuary providers plus 20% off at Conversations & Co Books – Gifts – Accessories.  To Subscribe:  Sanctuary at the Crossroads 

Join my membership community for ongoing empowerment

I created my membership community to provide a comfortable and affordable way to offer ongoing support for my coaching clients (who I call my “soul friends” – see my book  Soul Friends Guide to Surviving the Pit: A  Step-by-Step Handbook for Surviving and Thriving through Tough Life Changes).  Membership is $5/month and provides the following benefits:

February community graphic 2014

If you are a current or former client you are invited to become a member.  You can sign up here:  Membership

Have a wonderful month!


Insights From an Overloaded Nervous System

Sun over Lake with TreesAs a highly sensitive empathic person, I know the consequences quite well for becoming overloaded.  My adrenals and nervous system are very sensitive and when they are overtaxed, I feel lousy.  In my zest to create, do and heal, I forgot just how lousy overload feels.  I let myself fall into a place where there was no other choice but to take the steps needed to clear the adrenaline from my system and let myself recover.  That is where I was at last night (the night of the full moon in Libra which is all about balance.  How perfect is that?).  I share this because I learned a few things this time around and I thought you might find them helpful.  After all, the best approach is to avoid ending up in this state in the first place.  Something I plan on being much more vigilant about in the future. 

One of the things I learned was that my quest to heal, integrate and become whole has led me to push myself to make adjustments my system hasn’t always been ready for. I am very passionate about being able to live from a place of love and being free from old patterns and fears.  Yesterday, I came to understand that it is more important for me to be passionate about being gentle and loving to myself.  For those of you who have had exposure to children, you know what happens when you push a child into activities or situations they are not ready for.  You end up with a kid melting down, usually in a very intense way.  The same is true for our own inner child.  Yesterday, I set a new intention to have my Spiritual Support Team block me from any attempts to push myself in directions that are more than my system can handle.  It felt very empowering to choose this and a very important step in avoiding future overload.

The second thing I learned was to let go of my agendas.  I am a Capricorn and part of my personality is very focused on getting things done at certain times.  This has served me very well in that I am able to accomplish a lot in an organized way.  The downside of this trait is that I tend to make deadlines for myself.  Sometimes, these deadlines aren’t realistic.  This week, I am trying to get several things done ahead of time because my family is taking a vacation next week.  I realized yesterday, that I simply am not able to get everything done that I wanted to accomplish before we leave.  The “I’m running out of time” feeling nearly always pushes me into overload.  It was only while I was walking to get my system back in balance that it occurred to me the deadlines I had set were mine alone. There was no reason why they couldn’t be changed.  This brought me to the intuitive message I have been receiving a lot lately.  “Drop the agendas!” Using the metaphor of the butterfly again, I realized they are agenda-free creatures.  They just look for the most beautiful flower to land on or enjoy fluttering where ever the wind takes them.  It is the caterpillar phase that is all about agendas.  I believe we have all evolved out of the caterpillar stage.  Now, it is time for our brain to catch on to the change.  Since the highly focused, goal-oriented agendas are yet another thing that leads me down this much too familiar path with my nervous system, I made another intention last night.  I release all agendas! 

The final thing that I want to share from my learning last night feels quite life-changing.  I was feeling very uncomfortable physically and found myself saying “I am in love with my life.”  I did this because I have finally absorbed the lesson that the answer to every question is always to love.  So, I kept repeating the statement and noticed that my physical symptoms were disappearing!  As long as I stayed focused on being in love with all the amazing things in my life, I felt fine.  So what if we set this as our new plan?  What if we let everything else go and just be “in love” both with our life and ourselves?  I feel this is the focus for us now.  We have learned a lot about healing and growing into our full potential.  Now, I feel we are ready to take another big evolutionary step.  By shifting to living “in love,” we come into alignment with our true nature and the Divine within.  Ultimately, isn’t that all that matters?  If we are the co-creators of our lives, why don’t we choose to create a life we are in love with?  The place to start is to be in love with it all just as it is.  I know this is a concept we all have heard before.  All I can say is that when I did this consciously yesterday, when I focused on being “in love” with God, with my life, with my loved ones, with myself, I felt something change in me.  What if it could be a permanent change?  I set that as another intention last night.  Living in a state of love is glorious!  Certainly, we have spent long enough living in fear, haven’t we? It is time to make a change.

Wishing you all infinite blessings and a life you are in love with!




Taking Ownership: Discover Your True Essence (And Release the Rest)

If you were a house, what would you be like?  According to some dream experts, dreaming about a house often means that we are dreaming about ourselves.  The condition of the house indicates the state of our own inner world.  I’ve had a series of recurring dreams about a house.  Each time, the house feels so familiar.  I absolutely love it, but up until recently, I wasn’t yet the owner of it.  It was also always filled with other people and their belongings.  After a wonderful elemental reflexology session, it finally occurred to me that it was time to ask my Spiritual Support Team to clear it out.  Once I did that, it was time to finally claim ownership.

The word “claim” is very important with this process.  We need to be willing to claim ourselves, all of ourselves.  I spent a lot of time over the last several years digging through all the forgotten or hidden aspects of my psyche and coming to terms with what I found there.  In my Soul Friends’ book, I talk about the Soul Friends’ preferred method of dealing with skeletons in the closet…bring them out to dance!  I’ve found that in truth, most of the parts of ourselves we are afraid to admit to or face our usually much more positive than we realize.  Shadows on the walls are bigger then when you look at them directly.   We also need to stop claiming that which is not us.  I find that many people are claiming “facts” about their personality which are really just emotional responses to experience they have had.

We talk of shielding and boundaries frequently when I am working with clients.  It feels to me as if shielding is actually better termed as being unwavering in our own essence.  When we know who we are and feel the truth of our Divine Self, our essence cannot be altered by others energies or emotions.  We are free to invite the world to visit, knowing that we won’t be adjusting what they find when they come.  All the Universe asks of us is to be truest expression of ourselves.

So where are you in this process?  Have you emptied out your closets and discovered your true self?  Are you ready to see how all of that self fit together?

For March’s Empowerment Call, we’ll be asking our Spiritual Support Team to help us see the house of ourselves and to get a feel for what is going on inside of us.  By understanding ourselves better, we will be better able to stay centered in our truth.  We will claim that which is us, and release that which is not!  To join me, check out the call details below:

Taking Ownership:  Discover your true essence and release the rest!

3/11/2012 at 7-8 PM Eastern Standard Time

Cost:  Free to Soul Friends’ Community Members (Not a member yet?  You can learn more here:  SOUL FRIENDS’ COMMUNITY ); Non-Members-$15

Non-Members can register here (and you can also read some FAQ’s about the empowerment calls that I just added!):  EMPOWERMENT CALLS

Blessings to you and yours!


PS.  For those who live in Northeast Ohio, the elemental reflexology session was with my friend and colleague, Judy Tancinco.  You can learn more about Judy and the work she does here:  JUDY

Security in Interdependence: Wisdom from Your Inner Orphan

February’s newsletter focus is being safe and secure.  The archetype (personality aspect) associated with this topic is the orphan.  The orphan is the part of us who has experienced wounding somewhere along the line (and who hasn’t!).  Unlike, the innocent within us, the orphan doesn’t see the world as a very safe place.  The gift of this archetype is learning how to connect with others to create safety.  Recognizing our interdependence with others, we form communities to support us as we travel through our lives.

As you’ve probably guessed, I have learned a lot from my inner orphan!  Sanctuary at the Crossroads, Crossroads Coaching, The Highland Community Support Network, the intuitive coaching clubs, Soul Friends’ Community, and Sensitive Person Mentoring Groups are all examples of my inner orphan creating communities to provide more safety and security (after all isn’t there safety in numbers?).

So how can communities help us feel safe and secure?  They provide us with like-minded companions who can share their experiences and wisdom as we walk through life.  They can help us to see our own strengths and comfort us when we struggle.  Families can do this, but sometimes it is necessary to have others we are bonded with too.

An exercise to help you empower your inner orphan is to spend a few minutes looking at your own involvement with others.  Are the communities you are a part of (whether work or home) providing a sense of support and connection?  If they are, then take a few moments to be grateful and to honor the gifts they provide.  If not, ask yourself what types of communities or groups would empower you?  There are many opportunities to find like-minded souls.  Religious groups, clubs formed around hobbies, sports, and social clubs are just a few.   There are countless options available online.  Facebook, Twitter, Yahoo and Google Groups are just a few places to try.

Whatever community you join, know that it can be a very powerful experience.  I’ve seen amazing things happen when a group of people come together for a common purpose.  I’ve seen members of a writer’s groups go from being unpublished to multiple book authors.  I’ve seen community groups such as the Highland Community Support Network help hundreds of people.  I’ve seen environmental groups provide healing to local parks.  In my own clubs, I’ve watched complete strangers become supportive partners in the process of personal and spiritual growth.

So, today, consider taking a moment to look at your own connections.  If you are ready to find new ones, make a list of your interests.  Start searching around online, in the paper, at the library or by asking those you know to help you learn more.  I guarantee you’ll be able to find a group of fellow travelers (Soul Friends!) ready to share your journey!  Enjoy the journey!

Nancy Nicholas is an Intuitive Life Coach offering Empowerment Readings, Empowerment Clubs, Sensitive Person Mentoring, and a Soul Friends Community. She is the author of Soul Friends Guide to Surviving the Pit: A Step-by-Step Handbook for Surviving and Thriving Through Tough Life Changes  (available at and other retail bookstores).  For a free Empowerment Packet and to learn more about Nancy’s work, visit her website:

Healing the Shadow Side

I’ve been reading a great article on a book and DVD called, The Shadow Effect.  It gives this wonderful description about our shadow traits (traits we repress) being like a beach ball that you keep trying to keep submerged under the water.  Every now and again it bursts to the surface.  It also talks about the amount of energy it takes to keep the ball down.  Having experienced the ball rising to the surface on more than one occasion within my own psyche, I’m curious about what to do to improve this situation.  Debbie Ford (co-author of The Shadow Effect with Deepak Chopra and Marianne Williamson) recommends accepting the parts of yourself you are repressing.  So what am I repressing?  How about you?

Here’s an exercise Ford models to help you figure it out…
1.  What is a quality that you really love about yourself?
2. Why do you value this quality?  What makes it important to you?
3. What is its opposite?   This is also in you.
4. What would be beneficial for you in loving the opposite aspect within you?
5. When did this part develop during your childhood?
6. What does it need right now to be soothed and loved?

Expanding on this exercise, I’ve been working with the concept of trust.  I’ve found that certain aspects of my personality get triggered by experiences that mirror life events or relationships that were wounding.  When this occurs, typically the experience is much more intense and traumatizing then the actual event warrants.  There is a great urge to reject the part of myself that feels the victim (a shadow trait).  Using Ford’s concept, I realize that the better approach would be to look to my highest self for support.  I’m finding that more than any time in my life, I actually do trust myself.  Not necessarily the wounded part, but the solid, wise part.  The part that coaches others is very able to coach the shadow within myself.  So how do you bring forth your highest self to coach the shadow within?

After you have answered the questions above, try the following meditation…

It is a peaceful, warm summer’s day. The wind is gentle and cooling on your skin.  Butterflies flutter on the flowers around you.  Bees buzz and birds sing in the trees.  You are sitting in the shade beneath the shelter of a huge old, oak tree.  You rest your back against the broad trunk, feeling relaxed and at peace.  You breathe in deeply…inhale for a count of four, hold for four, and exhale for a count of six through your mouth.  Repeat this two more times.  You are safe and all is well.

Your eyes are drawn to the woods to your left.  You watch as a woman emerges.  She walks confidently, self-assured, and relaxed. She smiles at you and you feel a start of recognition.  It is the female aspect of your highest self.  She comes closer and kneels down, gently touching your face.  She smiles gently and sits beside you, taking your hand.  From the right, you see another figure approaching.  A man strides forward, confident, firm, yet friendly.  He smiles as he sees you.  Soon he comes up beside you and sits down.  He pats your shoulder to say hello.  You can feel the loving support of the male and female aspects of yourself.  You know that these two aspects of you have all the answers.  They know what needs to be done.  They know how to care for you.  You feel yourself relaxing, realizing that you can let them carry that which worries you.  What a relief!  Like a much loved child whose every need is met unconditionally, you find yourself feeling safe and happy.  There is nothing to worry about.  The wise one within you will take care of you.  Every part of you feels loved and valued.  All is well.
I hope this helps you integrate your own shadow traits! 

Nancy Nicholas is an Intuitive Life Coach and owner of Sanctuary at the Crossroads, Crossroads Coaching, and Empowering Lightworkers.  For a free Divine Purpose Survey and information on Empowerment Readings, Empowerment Products, and the Sensitive Person and Lightworker Mentoring Programs, visit Nancy’s website:


Divinely Inspired Message-A Safe Haven

I’ve asked for a Divinely inspired message for you today (on whatever day you happen to read this!) and this is what I was shown. 


I am sitting on a white rock.  Around me is dark water.  The water is so dark I can’t see what is within it.  I feel the smoothness of the rock. It is a moonstone.  I can feel a gentle energy coming from the rock and it is soothing me.  I look into the distance and all I see is the dark water.  It stretches for miles and miles.  I am alone on the moonstone, but I don’t feel lonely.  I feel safe and peaceful.       


From Nature-Speak: Signs, Omens & Messages in Nature by Ted Andrews:

Black:  “Black is found commonly throughout Nature in both the plant and animal kingdoms.  It is often associated with mysticism, magic and new birth.  It is a color of quiet strength and protection.  It can indicate a need for secretiveness and sacrifice.  Black is also associated with the feminine energies, the creative and the intuitive.  When found with other colors, it often indicates a grounding or even a more mundane energy or issue at play.”

White:  “Found in all of Nature’s kingdoms, white reflects the energies of truth.  It is soothing to our spirit and even indicates the presences of spirits about us in some area of our life.  When white appears predominately, we may have messages coming to us soon from the spirit world.  White is also a reminder to follow our creative inspirations.  If it is capturing our attention in Nature, we may need to look at how we are or are not expressing our creativity.  Now would be a good time to follow any creative pursuits.  If we have doubts about issues or activities or even people in our life, white is the color that reminds us to be patient.  The doubts will soon be alleviated.  We will get our answers.”

From The Crystal Bible:  A Definitive Guide to Crystals by Judy Hall
Moonstone:   “Moonstone is the stone of new beginnings.  As its name suggests, it is strongly connected to moon and to the intuition.  Like the moon, the stone is reflective and reminds us that, as the moon waxes and wanes, so everything is part of a cycle of change.  Its most powerful effect is that of calming the emotions.  Moonstone makes conscious the unconscious and promotes intuition and empathy.  It encourages lucid dreaming, especially at the time of the full moon.”


I hear Spirit saying the following in regards to the image I was shown.  “Rest.  This is a time of change and in the midst of change there our periods of great chaos when it feels like all is lost.  Remember that even in the midst of dark there is always light.  Trust that what is happening in your life right now is for your highest good.  Believe that love always triumphs over darkness because it does.  Let yourself be supported.”  To me the images suggest protection and a space apart from the stresses of life.  The moonstone feels very feminine and nurturing.  It is gentle and subtle, not harsh.  The dark waters around me are filled with mystery and they also feel like protection.  I feel safe and buffered.  The image of Noah and the Ark comes to mind.  As things are transformed in our world, we are safe and protected.  When the water recedes, new life will be born. 


What are you doing to nurture and care for yourself?  With the economy issues, the swine flu, and other challenges, I know many people are feeling very overwhelmed right now.  I find what works best for me is to think how I can support myself physically first.  Energetically and physically balancing your system will make it easier for you to handle stressful circumstances.  Regular exercise, massage, energy work, meditation, or any other activity that restores your physical well-being is a great place to start.  After that, you’ll be better able to consider options to reduce stress emotionally and mentally.  The members of my empowerment center are exceptional and have lots of ways to support you.  The website is  I am also happy to help as well.  Call or email me for an Empowerment Reading that combines intuitive healing, spiritual guidance, and practical coaching to support and empower you.  You can reach me at (330) 416-6184 or by email  The most important thing is to take care of you!  Make that your top priority, especially during times of stress.


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Have a wonderful day!


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