Creating Happy Boundaries

Have you ever felt you needed better boundaries? Most people who are spiritually evolving find this issue comes up for them. Often, they have more highly sensitive nervous systems that cause them to over empathize with others, frequently losing their own perspective. This can lead to challenges in relationships and even with one’s health.

One of the reasons that those who are spiritually evolving or are highly sensitive struggle with boundaries is connected to their auric field. The auric field is an energy field that surrounds the body. It is generated from the electromagnetic energy of the person and its cohesion and resiliency has a lot to do with a person’s overall health.

Highly sensitive or empathic people often have a weak, dispersed, or hole-ridden aura which makes it very difficult for them to stay in their own perspective. The aura allows the person to have a sense of separation from the other people around them and is important in maintaining a healthy system.

How To Tell If Your Aura is Weak

You will know your aura is not working optimally by how you are feeling. If you feel overwhelmed or bombarded by the emotions or energies of others, then odds are your aura is not supporting you in the way you would like. People often describe it as feeling invaded or punched by the unhappy energies of others. When our aura is strong, vital and cohesive, we are able to remain detached from the drama of others more easily.

How to Strengthen Your Aura

A simple technique to support the aura is to make figure eights with your hands. Rub your hands together first and then begin making figure eight patterns (palms facing the body) just off the body. Make the figure 8’s all over – above the head, along the side body, down the front, at your feet, and have a friend do your back (or visualize it being done if no one is around). You can do this many times throughout the day to feel strengthened and revitalized! To make it even more powerful (and fun), listen to some upbeat music while you do it!

If you’d like some more help with creating happy boundaries, consider joining my mailing list. When you sign up, you will get a link with free access to my “Building a Solid Foundation” online course that has additional tips and tools. Just click the button below!

Staying Centered – Three Questions to Promote Peace

For those of us who are highly sensitive or empathic, other people’s emotions and dramas can often feel overwhelming. The extra level of awareness that allows us to be compassionate and intuitive, also means we are more aware of the energy and emotions swirling around us. There are many tools to help you stay centered and not at the mercy of this sensitivity and I thought I’d share one created by my coaching partner, Ryan O’Toole, that I am finding very helpful.

One of the important steps to being a healthy, thriving empathic or highly sensitive person (or really for anyone trying to navigate the challenging times we live in) is to learn how to stay in one’s own shoes and not become overloaded by the emotions or experiences of others. When we are able to stay grounded and centered, we align with our higher self and are able to hear the wisdom of our heart. This is a time period when being able to listen to our inner truth radar is essential, as you can pick almost any topic and find conflicting “truths” being espoused.

Three Questions to Stay Centered

1. What is motivating your choice to get involved – love or fear? Love motives will bring a feeling of being uplifted, excited, or joyful. Fear motives will leave you feeling tense, anxious, pressured, or worried. If it isn’t love, then it is best to take a look at what is making you afraid and find a way to address the fear so you can then choose from love.

2. Will it nourish me to get involved? Just as they recommend when you are flying that if you need to use the oxygen masks, put yours on first before helping someone else, the same is true for keeping our own systems functioning optimally. If pursuing an interaction or activity is going to drain you, perhaps you should reconsider participating. When it is in alignment from a spiritual point of view for us to be involved, we will have the energy we need. If we are doing something out of guilt or obligation, it will drain us and that doesn’t help anyone.

3. Have you been invited? Those of us who are empathic naturally have a sense when someone is upset or struggling, but that doesn’t mean it is always best for us to get involved. We need to be invited to help before we act, as otherwise the person we are trying to help will become angry with us for not respecting their boundaries.

I have found taking the time to check in on these three questions really strengthens my ability to stay centered and empowered. I hope you find them helpful too!

Crossroads Coaching LLC NOW Spirit Earth Coaching LLC

A Message from Nancy 

I am so happy to share that I have made the name change to Spirit Earth Coaching LLC! As those of you who have been with me for awhile know, Spirit Earth was the name of my second business that I had started in Colorado. For several reasons, we ended up deciding to dissolve it back in January. I was very sad to let go of the name and the concept of Spirit Earth, as it is such a good representation of the type of work I do now. Recently, I learned that I could just change my business name, so I have decided to do that! For those of you who didn’t realize my business name was Crossroads Coaching (you probably think it is Empowering LIghtworkers), that is one of the reasons it feels safe to make this shift! I started Crossroads Coaching when I was at a “Crossroads” in my life – moving from a career as an elementary teacher into doing my life’s calling as a life coach. Now, I am on a quest to live a spiritual life that is centered around living close to the Earth – thus Spirit Earth Coaching LLC is a much better fit!

What is New 

Most of the offerings are not changing, but here are some things that are new with the name change:

  • Empowerment Readings NOW Spiritual Life Coaching Sessions: I  will still be offering the same type of sessions I’ve been doing in the past under the header of Empowerment Readings. I’ve changed the name because I feel it is a better representation of the full extent of what those sessions are about, since they combine intuitive guidance with teaching and coaching. Also, this will allow other types of spiritual coaching sessions to be offered as we go along.
  • Domain Name: My website address will still be accessible from EmpoweringLightworkers.com but the primary name will be changing to SpiritEarthCoaching.com
  • Earth Living Skils: Spirit Earth Coach, Ryan O’Toole, and I will be offering more Earth Living Skills in the future. These skills combine spiritual tools with nature-focused activities. More on that soon!
  • Website Blog: We are going to share more about our travels on the website blog than we have been doing this last year. If you want to follow, there is a place to sign up on the website. See below to go to the website home page. The option fo follow the blog (you can do this via email) is on the right side.
  • Workshops/Classes On the Road: We are going to be adding a page with types of workshops and classes we offer that will be available in Ohio or in other areas by request. More on that soon!
  • Facebook Page: My Facebook page has been changed to Spirit Earth Coaching LLC from Nancy Nicholas- Intuitive Life Coach. You can follow me here: Facebook

How to Schedule a Session

There is a contact form on the website (or you can reply to this email if you are an email subscriber!). Use the link below for the contact form option: Contact Spirit Earth Coaching LLC

Check out the New Website

The website has been completely revised (and more pages will be added soon). You can check it out using the link below:

Visit the Website

I look forward to connecting with you soon!

Nancy

Panic to Empowerment – Tips to Stay Out of Fear

I decided to post this week’s newsletter from my email list on the website, as I know anxiety and panic are something that a lot of people struggle with. Hope you find it helpful!

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Last week, panic attacks were the theme with three different people in a span of 24 hours! This took me back to my own experience with panic and reminded me of my vow to never go there again! I wanted to share what I learned from the experience with the hopes of helping others avoid the experience all together, as it was one of the most horrible things I ever went through.

The bottom line to stay out of a panic attack, is to keep your inner batteries charged up and not depleted. When we are in a constant state of anxiety and stress, it wears down the reserves and our adrenal glands become fatigued. This means our ability to cope with additional stressors is greatly diminished. My own panic attack felt like I was having a heart attack or something worse. I felt like I was dying and I was rushed to the emergency room. Once it subsided, I then had years of constant anxiety that was fueled partly by my fear of having it happen again! Below are some simple steps you can take to recharge your batteries (if they are already depleted) or to keep them charged up so you can avoid anxiety and panic.

Steps to Stay OUT of Adrenal Fatigue and Panic

1. Take a 30 minute walk everyday outside (preferably alone if you can). This saved my life! Exercise and breathing are the ways to clear the excess cortisol and other stress hormones from your system. When we are walking we are moving and breathing more deeply. Plus, we are in nature which helps to settle and calm the nervous system. I still do this every day now!

2. Donna Eden’s Energy Medicine – Having tools to use when you get into an anxious state is so important! I like the Energy Medicine Toolkit – I can flip a card and just do what it says if I’m anxious. You can also use the techniques to sedate the triple warmer and strengthen the spleen meridians which is essential to getting out of flight or flight. You can find those on You Tube for free. Learn a few easy techniques to calm the triple warmer so you have them on hand whenever you need them.

3. Rub your feet – Even if you have no training with reflexology, this is still a very powerful tool to use. Simply start rubbing your feet, toes, and ankles. As you find sore spots, spend more time there until they feel better. Let your intuition guide you and you will soon feel much more settled. You can access the entire system from the feet energetically – plus rubbing the feet reminds us to get back in our bodies which is much-needed when we are in a state of anxiety or fear.

4. Pay attention! Don’t ignore feelings of stress or overwhelm. When that starts, it is time to slow down, take the physical steps mentioned above to get out of fear and then get some insight into what is going on inside of you. I have found that anxiety usually stems from a truth that I am afraid to face or that I’m attempting to push myself into doing something that is not in resonance. Figuring out what is going on (after you have taken the steps to settle yourself) will help resolve the deeper message the fear is trying to bring.

5. Resist the urge to “think” to find a solution – When something goes wrong, we are quick to jump to thinking as a means of finding the answer. This is the worst thing you can do when you are struggling with anxiety. The sympathetic nervous system is activated when we are thinking. You want the parasympathetic system to kick in that is all about being. That is why having tools on hand you can use immediately without having to “think about” what to do is so important. Often, anxiety hits in the middle of the night, so having something you can do instantly to feel better is crucial.

Finally, just remember that your best friends when you are feeling anxious are movement and breathing! As tempting as it is to climb into bed and hide out, move instead! Even doing something like washing the floor can help, as it will clear out the stress hormones!

Opportunities to Connect

3/24 Saturday 1-5PM Spring Open House – This event is full – I’m excited to see those of you who are coming! I will be sending out an email soon with details.

3/31 Saturday 10 AM – 12 PM (Hinckley Metroparks) ReWilding Hike- A huge challenge we are facing as a collective is our disconnect from nature and our own physical systems. We have moved so much into our heads that our systems are constantly in a state of stress. Being at home in the natural world and in our physical bodies can change that pattern. This event will share some information about the concept of “ReWilding,” teach you some simple techniques to help you be more connected to the natural world, and give you a chance to get outside and get some exercise too. We will be talking for about an hour inside and then walking for an hour around Hinckley Lake. Love Exchange: $15/Members or $30/Non-Members. Reply to this email (for email subscribers) or use the contact form at the bottom to register.

Oracle Card Reading for the Week

From The Fool’s Wisdom Oracle Cards by Sonia Choquette

The Play Fool – “Have fun and be playful.”

Nancy’s Reflections: This is so perfect with the topic of anxiety and panic! Worrying and being in our head is what causes us to land in anxiety and panic, so playing is the perfect antidote! When we play and laugh, our nervous systems settle. We are able to move out of fear and into love, which then brings us more love to enjoy! A few tips to help you find that playful energy (as I know it can be tough when we feel weighed down by worries):

1. “I am laughing!” – I find that when I can’t get myself out of a heavier state of mind, if I start repeating this affirmation, my energy lightens and shifts. So even if you can’t get yourself to laugh out loud, try saying this statement over and over and it will make it easier to laugh for real.

2. Listen to Kid’s Music – I shared in a group recently that I’d been doing a lot of the hokey pokey lately! Singing simple childhood songs – especially ones that make you move – is a great way to get out of heavy adult energy and into fun. If you look on Pandora or You Tube or other music collections, you can easily find recordings of childhood songs. Have some on hand this week to pull out when you need a little lightening up!

3. Dance – Dancing is great exercise and it is also tremendous for freeing up our resistance. Don’t worry about looking good or having good moves! Just move your body in whatever way feels good and shake off the stress! I loved the movie “Sing” and one of the songs on that was “Shake it Off.” That is a great one to dance around too, especially if you have something you want to shake off!

4. Get outside and wander – When I was a kid, I spent a lot of hours in the vacant lot next door looking for fossils or climbing trees. Find time to wander outside a bit, even if it is just in your backyard. There is so much going on out there that we miss because we are too in our heads to notice. Find your childhood curiosity again and reawaken your playful spirit!

Coaching Tool for the Week

Here is a quick video to explain how to do foot reflexology on yourself!

Foot Reflexology

Wishing you all a playful, anxiety-free week!
With much love,
Nancy

Creating Harmony by Coming From Wholeness

Collectively, there has been a rising up of those who have felt victimized and repressed, especially by the feminine (an aspect that is in all of us – both women and men). This has also been occurring on the individual level within our own psyches as well. It is as if the parts of ourselves that we have undervalued have absolutely had it with being dismissed or ignored! It has also sparked off fear, as our inner and outer interactions are being asked to evolve. This is kicking up a lot of anger which is spilling out in our relationships. I have worked with many women lately who have been struggling with relationship challenges, often between the women in their family. Sadly, it has frequently lead to a complete breakdown in communication, causing a fracturing in the family.

Hearing about these conflicts, I have been pondering the question about what true feminine power looks like. It occurs to me that these dynamics are another example of how feminine power has been masquerading as a man. Feminine power is about wisdom, nurturing, cohesiveness, harmony and empowering the whole. It is about trusting the natural unfoldment of life, working with its rhythms, not trying to dictate them. The more masculine approach is individually focused and goal oriented. It is about action and doing, not being. This is not the true nature of the feminine or yin. Yet, isn’t that what is happening in these dynamics? Instead of the using of wisdom to bring people together so that all feel empowered and nurtured, it is as if we are suddenly so afraid of being left out in the cold that we are shoving our sisters out first.

When I asked for guidance about this, I was given a very powerful message. The message was that we all, men and women, need to start thinking of ourselves as part of one organism. While we don’t always realize it, we are connected energetically and telepathically to all those we know. They also said that anyone who shows up in your life, in your movie, is part of your whole, even the ones that you think you don’t want there or who don’t seem to want you! It is not to say that we have to stay involved with people who are abusive to us, but it does mean that those people are part of the whole and there to teach us something that is important to the functioning of the whole. For example, our body is one organism, but it has many individual parts. If the left leg decided the liver was disgusting because of its function to remove toxins from the body and tried to get rid of it, the body would die. We are made up of many parts and all parts are needed and none are truly more valuable than others. The organism thrives when each part is playing the role it was meant to play in the way it was meant to play it. When this becomes out of balance, the whole being suffers.

So what do we do with this information? I was guided to start asking myself in all situations, how will this impact the harmony of the whole that I am a part of and how will it impact my relationship to the larger whole which is Nature which we are dependent on? It is not a question of kicking people out of our movie, but instead asking ourselves, what is the best response from me that will feed the harmony of the whole in regards to this person? Is the conflict that is being created causing growth? Is it bringing to light places where we are too controlling of others, instead of trusting in the flow of life and the perfect timing of nature – what true feminine power is all about? Are we too focused on what others are doing while ignoring our own needs and interests? Are we overlooking the need for each individual to access their own wisdom, so that they can feel empowered? Are we welcoming and inviting to all or are we trying to exclude and control? What is going on for the other person from a spiritual perspective?

Going back to the metaphor of the body, imagine what would happen if the stomach was obsessed with how the lungs were breathing. Imagine it being so busy prodding the lungs to breathe when it thought it should, that it was unable to do its own job of digesting food! What a disaster that would be. Feminine wisdom (something we all possess – both men and women) knows that it is not necessary to control things. Nature knows what it is doing – just as our bodies do. If you look at most of the challenges we are having in our environment right now, they have come from getting out of balance with the needs of the whole and trying to control processes that we didn’t really understand. Could this also be said about the interactions with our loved ones? Perhaps each of us is doing exactly what we need to do with our lives, with the people we are meant to be doing to with, for our optimal spiritual growth and development. What if there is truly a bigger story here and we don’t need to try to control that story, but can instead trust that everything is unfolding in perfect, Divine order for the highest good of all?

Shifting from the thinking of trying to control the parts, we would instead focusing on feeding the harmony of the whole. We would work with the whole of our bodies, the whole of our families, the whole of our communities, the whole of our world. We would nurture, support, encourage, and allow each system to move into its perfect rhythm without trying to force it. We could relax, let go, and enjoy the absolutely perfection of each moment, even the moments that challenge us.

When I asked for guidance on how to work toward this more harmonious approach, the following steps were suggested:

When someone challenges you…

1. Say thank you in your heart.  “Thank you for bringing to my awareness that which is no longer in resonance for me. Thank you for helping me to see something I believe that is not good for me that has created this challenge. Thank you, for at the soul level, I know you are my friend.”

2. Ask yourself how you can feed the harmony of the whole in this situation? If the person who is challenging you seems controlling, ask yourself, is there somewhere in my life where I need to trust more and let go of control? If the person is unkind, ask yourself is there somewhere in my life that I am being unkind or judgmental of myself or others? Let the person be a mirror that helps you more deeply understand yourself.

3. Send love and peace to the person who challenges you. We want the whole organism to thrive because it is the only way that each part will thrive. Pray for the person. Pray that they find the wisdom they need. Pray that they feel loved and safe. Pray that you can allow them to find their way, as you work to find your own. Just as you may feel unhappy when your head hurts, the best way to get the head to feel better is to send love its way. To do things that nurture yourself and to be kind to yourself. The same is true within our dynamics with others.

4. Be patient. Nature has its own timing. Things may not shift as quickly as you like, but things are changing. Let it unfold. Breathe, focus on what is going well in your life, and love. Trust. The Creator has it all under control, so you can relax and trust that in the end all is working for your good.

Thank you for being part of my whole!

Sending love and gratitude,

Nancy

 

Fight or Flight Goes Crazy

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Those of you who have worked with me know that I often talk about the Triple Warmer Meridian. This is one of the energy lines of the body that regulates our fight or flight response. It serves as the inner warrior that is always watching out for danger and prepared to call in the troops should a challenge arise.

In the days of our ancestors, most of the threats we faced came in the form of physical attacks. Should such a physical challenge arise, the triple warmer system would release the hormones and prepare the body for a big physical exertion, either to run or fight. These days, most of our threats are emotional or are of things that aren’t happening directly to us. This means that our inner warrior is running around trying to protect us when there is nothing to fight and no where to run! When this happens, we are essentially putting a cap on a volcano. All that has been geared up gets no outlet and virtually implodes inside of us.

This last week, the Triple Warmer went off the charts for a lot of people. I had more calls about people feeling suicidal or having huge blowups with loved ones then I think I have ever had at one time. So what happened?

Take a look at what has been going on lately. There has been one natural or man-made disaster after another. We are bombarded with tales of suffering, political upheaval, and unfolding disaster daily. Then add in our normal everyday challenges and you have a recipe for Triple Warmer Overload! When that happens, our ability to reason or be objective goes out the window. It makes us feel that everything is out of control and we are in terrible danger. This often leads to frustration with loved ones because we are looking to them to help us feel safe again, when often they are in the midst of fear themselves.

So what can we do about this? Below are  some suggestions to help step out of the state of high alert, so we can get back to inner stability and peace. From this place, we are much better able to help others, without crashing and burning ourselves.

1. Breathe  – There are two ways to clear the hormones that cause the fight or flight response and deep, slow breaths are one of them. When we are afraid, we start to breathe very shallow and quick. Consciously focus on expanding your lungs to their full capacity, pause, and then do a long, slow exhale from the mouth. Even a few deep breaths can settle your system.

2. Move – When the Triple Warmer gets out of whack, we are often in situations where we can’t move, yet moving is the second way we can clear the hormones that are causing the fight or flight response. If you are in a car, try doing some simple exercises. Grip the steering wheel and hold for 30 seconds and then relax your grip for 30 seconds. Tighten and release different muscle groups. Use one hand to do tapping (emotional freedom technique). If you are somewhere you can move, do some push ups, go for a walk, do some yoga or any exercise that keeps you moving.

3. Laugh – Laughter can quickly calm your system, yet when we are afraid it is often difficult to find anything funny. One thing I have found helpful is to keep repeating “I laugh, I laugh, I laugh” over and over to myself. Even just saying that seems to shift my energy and helps me relax. If you can find something funny to watch or remember something that happened that was really funny, that is even better!

4. Stay Close to the Earth – Nature is our number one ally for keeping our nervous system balanced. When we are out with trees and plants in natural places, our nervous system begins to sync with the vibration of the natural world. This is our optional vibration as well and can provide deep healing. Sitting on the ground, walking barefoot, leaning against a tree are all easy ways to get out of fight or flight. A good metaphor to think of is about being out in a storm. If the wind is blowing fiercely, you don’t want to be up in the tree! You are much safer staying close to the earth. Right now, we need to stay grounded to keep from losing our balance. A daily walk in nature is a great way to take good care of yourself.

5. Be present – It is wonderful how we are able to be connected with people all over the world, but it is also part of the reason we get overloaded sometimes. While we can have great compassion for the suffering of others, we can’t carry their challenges or solve them. For example, those of us in Ohio aren’t able to be helping to fight fires in California right now. We aren’t there and there is no fire to fight where we are. That is why being mindful of what you are exposing yourself too through the media is an important step to calming the Triple Warmer. Imagine you have a young child inside you that is scared. The last thing you would do is start telling them about all the dangerous things that could happen to them! We need to do the same for ourselves. Be present where you are and see where you are as safe and affirm that all is well. Fill yourself with peace. Ask the Angels to help where you aren’t able to and then come back to what is present for you in this moment.

6. Energy Techniques – There are many great energy techniques out there that can help to settle your nervous system and calm the Triple Warmer. You can have a session with a practitioner of reflexology, polarity therapy, Reiki, Jin Shin Jyutsu, BodyTalk, massage, or Cranial Sacral Therapy, just to mention a few. All of these techniques can be very helpful to settle your system. There is also a technique called Energy Medicine created by Donna Eden. I am a huge fan of this system, as it offers many simple things you can do on your own. Below is a link to a You Tube video sharing some of the best ways to calm the Triple Warmer Meridian:

Sedate the Triple Warmer Meridian

For a list of my favorite practitioners, visit the Gratitude Directory on my sister site: Spirit Earth 

I’m also happy to help with an empowerment reading or energy session!

I hope this helps you to find some peace during this time of transformation.

Much love,

Nancy

 

Conscious Creation in a Chaotic World

As chaos seems to rain down on our world, it is easy to get caught in fear. More than ever, we need to be warriors of light and refuse to relinquish our right to create a loving and peaceful world. So how do we do this?

We can only do it by working from the inside out. When you are confronted by something in your outer world that frightens you or angers you, a good policy is to check within. One of the techniques shared during my shamanic training was to ask “Is this upsetting me greater than a 2 on a 1 to 10 scale (10 is the highest)?” If the answer is “yes,” then you are dealing with something that is really about you.

Of course, you may ask yourself how does this work with world disasters such as hurricanes, floods, and mass shootings? How can those be about me? There are many ways we can look at this, but for the purpose of this post, I am most interested in how we can work with these experiences to empower ourselves and thus empower others. To do this, I feel that all these outer world experiences are things that we have chosen at a soul level to be part of the movie we are currently starring in. If we included these types of things in our story, the question becomes why? What do these events kick up for you? Do they make you feel angry or sad or victimized? Do you feel powerless or motivated to help others? How we view these events and how we react to them says a lot about what we are trying to learn within ourselves.

For instance, many of us can easily fall into the victim icon right now. There is a feeling of futility when we look at what is happening in the outer world and a sense of hopelessness can creep in. It is in those moments when we have an opportunity to step out of victim and into a place of power. We can affirm what we wish to see and experience in our world. We can invoke our Angels and Spirit Guides, asking them to show us what we need to learn and to help create our intentions in our world. We can shift to gratitude and focus on where love is ruling instead of fear. All of this takes discipline and sometimes it is difficult to have that discipline. But what other option do we have? Continuing to collapse into victimization creates more fear. We are here now in this incarnation having this experience. We can learn what this is teaching. We can stop being passive and allowing the world to happen to us and start consciously creating what we want to experience instead.

Healing Meditation with the Archangels

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This morning, I woke up and was struggling to get my nervous system to settle.  The events in the larger world are deeply unsettling and while I know in my wiser self that it is part of the transformation that is needed to move into the higher dimensional paradigm, I am still saddened by the path we are taking to get there.  I used this meditation that I had recorded a month or so ago to bring myself back to a balanced state.  In case any of you are finding it hard to stay peaceful, I thought I would share it here too:

Sending love and peace to all!

Nancy

 

The Habit of Gratitude

img_2957One of the challenges to living in a state of joy is keeping the mind at peace.  Our minds have been trained to look for things to worry about.  We are used to working on “problems” or trying to avoid things that can cause us pain.  While there is a time and place for that to occur, often we are worrying rather than solving problems.  Yet, trying to redirect the mind when it thinks it has found something to be concerned about can be really tough!  Recently, I started a new technique that I’ve been finding really effective, so I thought I would pass it on to all of you.  I’m calling it the “habit of gratitude.”

Basically, what I started doing was when I noticed myself getting uptight or worried, I started looking around for things to be thankful for.  I would start mentally saying thank you for everything that caught my attention. For example, this morning when I was walking, I started mentally saying the following, “Thank you for the beautiful blue sky.  Thank you for these warm clothes. Thank you for my comfortable shoes. Thank you for the warm sun on my back. Thank you for the beautiful green bushes. Thank you for the refreshing breeze. Thank you for my strong muscles that let me walk easily. Thank you for my health. Thank you for the palm trees.  Thank you for my loved ones. Thank you for this opportunity to be walking. Thank you for my Angels.”  After just a few minutes of this, I was feeling lighter and happier. My whole energy system had shifted and I was smiling!

I have heard it said that it takes 21 days to create a new habit.  I have just started this practice, so it hasn’t become a habit for me yet, but I hope that I can stick to it and make it one.  Want to join me?  This month, let’s get into the habit of looking for all the wonderful things to be grateful for.  When you aren’t sure what to think about or if you start feeling worried, shift your focus and start saying thank you.

Choosing Your Center

Here’s a post I posted recently on Spirit Earth.  Be sure and check out the other posts I have posted at Spirit Earth and sign up to join me on my Joyful Quest by clicking here.

Years ago, I heard a man speak about how to settle the nervous system. He was lecturing to a group of 40 some anxious people. Being empathic, I could feel the tension in the room when he started. He had a very calm manner and proceeded to talk about how our nervous system is responding to things in our environment all the time, sometimes in ways we aren’t conscious of. He talked about how in family dynamics, it is often the person who is most uptight that becomes the center of the family nervous system. They are the ones who have the most dominant presence, often radiating their imbalance. He explained that in a collective situation, everyone’s nervous system will sync with the most dominant energy in the group. That means that if someone who is dominant is very angry, everyone’s nervous system begins to resonate with the anger, causing all kinds of upheaval. He then went on to demonstrate what can happen when someone in a peaceful state becomes the center. He took a few moments and brought himself to a place of deep peace. The energy in the room changed instantly. All those anxious people suddenly settled! Recently, I’ve been reminded of this dynamic. Families are often built around crisis because the person who is most dominant is the one who is most unsettled. This reminded me that our families are just a reflection of our own inner world. We hold all the archetypes (personality aspects) of our loved ones in ourself. Which brought the question of which archetype am I letting be the sun or center of my inner world? I realized, in the past, it was often the wounded child. When our energy is centered around our woundedness we continue to draw to us those things that resonate with the wounds. So what happens if we shift that sun archetype to the part of us that is most joyful? Wouldn’t that mean that all the other aspects of our personality would come into sync with that piece? The demonstration in the room of anxious people would suggest that it would work that way. So would the concepts of quantum physics which suggest it is our beliefs that are constructing our experiences in our world.

Try It

Find time to do a little inward searching. What part of your personality tends to be the center of your experience? If it is a wounded aspect, consider putting out the intention to let your most peaceful and joyous self be the sun in your world. Try it for the day and see what happens when you turn your attention to the happy self inside of you instead of focusing on the fearful one.

Nature Inspiration

While I was writing this passage, I was sitting by the North Fork of the Skokomish River in Washington. In front of me was a heart shaped rock. The energy of the water flowing by with the sun reflected on it was very peaceful and soothing. Spend a few minutes connecting with it to support you in moving your joy to your center.

Choosing Center